Tuesday, December 10, 2013

It's been a while...

Apparently people on my facebook don't like my posts. I mean I know they aren't always positive and full of butterflies and rainbows... I do sometimes use it as an outlet, but whatever. My mother suggested I start up my blog again, cause this momma needs an outlet.

I'm not sure where I should start. I guess I'll start with the thing I struggle with the most. People and their priorities. Especially when it comes to children.  I'm trying to think of a witty quote, they play out in my head all the time... but today I asked for a filter and today I apparently got one.

I have witnessed on almost a daily basis the amount children suffer when parents don't make their children a priority. The thing I don't understand is you had a choice to have children. I mean I understand that they might not have been planned, Jared was not planned. But when these creatures, these children enter this world, HOW ARE YOU NOT COMPLETLY CHANGED BY THEM? I feel like I'm the exception to the rule sometimes, and not all people are this way. But all to often I see people bitch and complain about the things they have to give up for their children, the inconvience of their children, the struggles, the list is long. I see the parents who choose work over their children, parties over their children. Believe me I know all to well needing to take a break from your kids, sometimes parents need a time out. But I'm starting to think that as of lately kids are just an acceserory to this sorta "status" you are required to have. But the people who pay the price for these selfish ass people are the kids.

I'm not perfect and I do not pretend to be. But the minuet my son was born my world was forever rocked. My priorities completly changed, my outlook on life forever changed it's focus. I have had the insane opportunity to stay home with my children from the beginning. We've made sacficies for this to happen but I wouldn't change one second of this for any amount of money in the world. To be able to be present in my childrens lives, to be able to be involved in almost every aspect of their lives has been one of the most amazing gifts I've been given in my entire life.

I have to admit that it is also amazing having the kind of husband that I do. He has the same view on raising our children. He is 100% invested in our children. He would much rather spend his day off with both of his children. He makes them both a priority and will plan individual "dates" with both so he can have one on one time with them. We decided when we got married a year after Jared was born (we did things a little backwards) that instead of a honeymoon we would have a familymoon... Yes our son went on our "honeymoon" with us. We are dedicated to our children, we love our children, our children make us better people.

It goes without saying that we as parents do need time away. We do make it a priority to take time to be alone together. We will go out on dates from time to time and we may stay up late watching our favorite show together... we do plan one trip a year for a weekend getaway just the two of us. But together as a family is where we enjoy and love to be.

I can't change people and I cannot adopt all the kids in the world who were given shitty parents. I don't know how to change peoples veiws or how to not let it frustrate me... I guess I can just keep on trucking, loving on my children like there is no tomorrow... You are not promised tomorrow, what if tomorrow never came?